Sex is an important element of any relationship. Once a couple reach a certain level of comfort together, sex almost easily and inevitably follows. However, not everyone is comfortable jumping to that next step, especially for those who are going to have it for the first time. A lot of questions, confusions and fears are associated with sex that needs clearing out. Of course, we all wish to enjoy making love to our partners, but there are few things that definitely and certainly need consideration.
It has been found through studies that those couples that discuss and bring up taboo situations and express and understand each other’s feelings in constructive ways are more likely to have a happy, solid and long-lasting relationship, in comparison with the ones who do not. Talking about intimacy, love-making and sex is one of the most important factors that can make all the difference in a relationship.
Its important to have a conversation about sex, like what you like your partner to do, what you want to do, your comfort level etc. Here is some help-
5 Crucial Topics to Come to Discuss Before Indulging in Sex-
We discover 5 such crucial situations about coition that can come up between couples and how to deal with them in a positive way:
- Safety: Safety is almost the first and foremost issue that any couple tend to discuss before going for sex. The questions of STDs, unwanted pregnancy and methods used for protection should always be discussed. Both the partners need to asses their situation and should know where they stand. You have every right to respect your body and should express any doubts with your partner openly.
- Timing: Timing is another important factor that needs to be discussed. Before going in for sex, both the partners need to be on the same platform. In other words, if one partner is impatiently raring to go and the other is just giving in, both will not be able to fulfill each other’s needs emotionally and physically. Everybody has right to refuse sex. Thus, gently touch your partner and suggest another time where you two can equally participate and enjoy sex to the full.
- Plan the Occasion: Planning may take away some of the spontaneity but its a good idea to discuss when you both can be ready and enjoy love-making. See where you can best fit in sex during a week. Work it out together and if your partners differs, then learn to compromise. Remember, a situation that suits you both will lead to much better sex.
- Feedback: Expressing what you feel and get under the collar is crucial. Continue doing it, unless it becomes your second nature. Everybody has some unspoken thoughts, feelings and needs. Ask your partner to discuss what you both like or would like to do. An indirect way can be to moan when your partner does something different. Men are more receptive to non-verbal messages and this will entice him to do it more. Telling a man something to do in a direct way may hurt his ego.
- Innovation: It can be very easy for any sexual relation to succumb to routine which may inhibit to explore many other erotic options. If your relationship has fallen into a monotony, discuss that with your partner. You can hire a sex-therapist or you both can do some studying on your own to explore your own sexual side and come up with new ideas.
Initiating sex in a relationship is but a bundle of jitters. Your acceptance and participation is as important as getting to know the pros and cons your intimacy. Enjoy your time together.
SAFETY is utmost important. Make use of Precautions!
Hope this article helps. The topic is somewhat difficult to talk about… but here am I… pour your comments in the box!
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