When you are in a relationship you go through a lot of ups and downs and as we all know fighting is a part of a healthy relationship. But sometimes these fights may get rather ugly and it happens only in those cases where either one or both of the partners lose control over their tongue. But no matter how angry or frustrated you are, there are certain phrases that you must avoid saying to your partner no matter how bad the situation is. Below we have mentioned five such phrases which are barred from couple fights.
1. It’s your fault- The moment you utter these words from your mouth you will shift the whole attention from finding a solution to the problem will shift to an unending blame game. So it is better to not lose your calm too much and never ever indulge in the blame game. What is done, is done and so instead of discussing whose fault it, is sit down together and try to find a solution or way out of it.
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2. You did it last time too- This is not a nice thing to say to your partner. If you have already forgiven your partner for the mistakes of the past, then you should not bring up any past issues in the current situation/fight. Bringing up any such memory will lead to further disagreement and can make things turn uglier. So if this is you most of the times when you are having an argument then you need to change it and think of a different way to handle such a situation.
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3. I want a divorce/breakup- Heated arguments often make us say things which we don’t want to or we don’t mean. Once these words are said you cannot take them back, no matter how much you regret them. In case you couldn’t get a hold of your tongue and spit out something like this, immediately cover up for the same by apologising. Tell them that what you just said, you don’t mean that and it won’t happen again in the future.
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4. You are a coward/jerk- Making personal attacks will make the other person turn defensive and the fight often turns into a win or lose kind of situation. Calling each other with names is like putting them side by side to a negative thing which is surely not a nice thing. This often suggests that you do not consider them as an individual. While having a fight you must keep a check on your words and avoid using terms which may offend your partner.
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5. I need to talk to you right now- During a heated conversation, it often happens that you sometimes feel unheard especially when the other person has refrained from listening to you. But using this particular statement is not going to help you either because it sounds very authoritative and it is not a good tone to use if you want to get heard. If you think that you are not being heard, then you rather calmly bring forward this point.
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